WHY is this happening to me?
If God is so powerful, why doesn’t He stop this?
He doesn’t love me, I deserve this…
This MUST be God’s will.
God is punishing me!
If He REALLY loved me…
The Blame Game
Growing up you can believe I blamed God for everything.
Whenever something went wrong it was His fault.
However, I am not one who blames Him for the misfortunes that happen in my life anymore. When I was a teenager a mentor once told me that because of the freewill God gave us, bad stuff was always going to happen anyways, so why would I blame Him? That made sense and always stuck with me.
Over the years as my faith has grown and my relationship has deepened with Him, I’ve come to believe that it is never His wish for bad things to happen to us. The entire bible is full of everything good He desires to give us as His children. Although, I believe He will allow us to experience certain trials Satan throws at us in hopes that we might learn something or to give Himself an opportunity to bless someone.
It seems to be much like the parent child relationship (hence, why we call him “Father.”) As a mother, never in a million years would I ever wish for anything bad to happen to my child. I will however, welcome any opportunities to teach her valuable lessons and help her grow to insure that she is able to stand strong on her own two feet when I am not around.
Another way to think about it is that God never promised us a life without pain or suffering. Sure, His wrath came upon the world plenty of times throughout the old testament, but I view it no differently than when I have to discipline my child for being disobedient or disrespectful. I don’t correct her by wishing or making something bad happen to her. Instead, I try to allow her to experience the natural consequences of her own actions (whether good or bad) and guide her with as much love and grace as I can (be it sometimes more strongly than others!)
The Loving Result
Then, I make sure not to go anywhere or ever leave her. I’m always here to help support, encourage and love her. Sometimes that means helping her pick up the pieces or being here to dry her tears. Other times it means I’m just here to hold and hug her whenever she needs it.
That is how God is with us. He loves us unconditionally. In our times of trouble it is never He who leaves the relationship, even if we become angry and blame Him. His promise to us is that He is always near and will welcome us with open arms whenever we are ready… all we have to do is knock.
Ask and it shall be given to you; seek and you shall find; knock and it shall be opened to you.
(Mat 7:7 MKJV)
And I say to you,
Ask and it shall be given you. Seek and you shall find. Knock and it shall be opened to you.
(Luk 11:9 MKJV)
- Life Doesn’t Happen By Accident (kristalcohen.wordpress.com)