Pretty Woman

December 17, 2013


Pretty Woman with Julia Roberts and Richard GereI came across another post tonight which mentioned a scene from the movie “Pretty Woman.” It’s where Richard Gere gives Julia Roberts a kind and thoughtful compliment, but I guess instead of graciously accepting it she responds with “But did you ever notice how much easier it is to believe the bad stuff?” (It’s been a few years since I’ve seen the movie).

I don’t know about you, but it stirred my emotions and hit home. Maybe because it’s something I’ve dealt with for a long time now. Just think about this though…

Negative or Positive Compliments

The overall question is this… How much easier is it for you to accept the bad things about yourself (versus the good) even if they are not true?

Do you ever shy away from a positive compliment finding it difficult to accept? Do you struggle to believe it? Maybe your most natural reaction is to just brush it off and not take it seriously? Perhaps you automatically question the persons intentions and wonder what they want or expect from you?

If you hear something bad about yourself how quick are you to believe it? Do you easily accept it as truth without questioning it’s validity? How often do you engage in negative self talk?

Thoughts to Ponder

It is sad to think that positive compliments could affect some people negatively like this. However, that’s how it is for many, including myself. Why is it so easy for us to accept and believe the negative, but not the positive?

Personally, most of my relationships and the way I grew up consisted of hearing only negative things, so it’s what I got used to. I think it boils down to trust, still believing the best in everyone and not allowing the past to affect our future in such a negative way.

What about you? Do you ever struggle with receiving compliments? Or finding that balance between humility and self love? May we not only learn how to graciously accept compliments, but to believe them as well!


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6 Comments on “Pretty Woman”

  1. lscotthoughts Says:

    By the way, this is one of my favorite movies and I love Julia! :)


  2. lscotthoughts Says:

    Wonderful and thought provoking post, Jessie! I have always struggled with receiving complements and it’s definitely easier to accept the negative than the positive. However, now that I’m in my early 50’s, I’m learning to graciously accept them (I guess it can take awhile :))…wishing you a lovely Christmas and a wonderful and peaceful new year, too! Many hugs!


  3. Wendell A. Brown Says:

    Your words and your thoughts are ever steadily blossoming! Everything you share Jessie is so meaningful! You light will always be a radiant one that will light a path for many! God bless my sister!


  4. Jeff Says:

    I struggle with receiving compliments, myself. Especially when it’s worship related. I don’t want the attention drawn to me, since I’m trying to direct it to God, so when people tell me that I did a great job or something like that, I feel like they missed the point.



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