Habit #5

December 29, 2013


 “Seek First To Understand,
Then To Be Understood.”

When we are able to take this approach, it helps us not to take things so personally or become defensive during conversations. It helps us not to jump to conclusions or make assumptions about a situation. When we learn to approach conflict or disagreements with a desire to understand the other persons perspective first by asking questions, we become more open to actually listening to what they have to say. It can also help us recognize what our responsibility is and how we may be contributing to the problem or issue as individuals. I like to call this approach, “fighting fair.”


Book recommendation, “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People” by Stephen Covey.


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8 Comments on “Habit #5”

  1. "Surviving the Storm Blog" Says:

    This bad habit was brought to my attention years ago during a teaching series on how to receive correction. I thought that just because I allowed the other person to speak without interrupting I was listening. But, in my mind I was always coming up with a answer before hearing. I was not listening for their benefit but for my own. I still have work to do in this area but praise God that I have become a less selfish listener.


    • Jessie Jeanine Says:

      B-I-N-G-O! You stated this very well my friend, making a point that I think is all too common with many of us. So good to catch up with you again Jillian and Happy New Year. To listen is to love!


  2. spiritministries Says:

    Makes sense, God bless you.


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