How To Move On (intro.)

January 21, 2014


I received another email recently and it pulled at my heart-strings in such a way that I wept. Another beautiful soul with so many questions… another survivor looking for answers…


While trying to respond to this email, I realized that I have yet to directly answer some things or put them to paper. It made me wonder if perhaps that is why I also struggle with trying to help people via email. It seems I do well to comfort and ease your pain in person and sure, I can write and speak about my stories now, but how do I teach that to other people? How do I articulate the process that has helped me move on in life in order to help others do the same? Why do I get hung up on this part of things? After all, I am a writer!

Then I felt an old familiar friend nudging me in the side. Insecurity tells me I am no one and nothing to be teaching others, while fear tells me I am not adequate or smart enough to help anyone, and blah, blah, blah… you know how it goes. The only part I have never had a problem with is feeling qualified. I don’t care how many degrees you may have, if you haven’t lived it, you are not as qualified as you think. You are not as qualified as another person who has lived through those things.  Oh, that brings to mind something wonderful I heard this week:

God doesn’t call the qualified
He qualifies the called!

Anyways, this person’s email and questions got me thinking in so many different directions it isn’t even funny. Here is the basis of what was asked:

  • How am I able to write about my stories when it means re-living them all over again?
  • How did I get past all the memories?
  • How does one get past that point, to where I am now, of really living again?
  • How do you let the fight “fuel you” instead of “drain you?”

There was more to this email obviously, but you can imagine the types of thoughts and feelings that might accompany such questions, especially if you have been a victim yourself. This person, like so many others, has a desire to tell their story and find healing, but struggles with the possibility of having to re-live the events in order to do so.

How do you get past it?
How do you move on?

It made me realize I could write an answer that seems to never end, so in an effort to process some of this myself, I’m going to break things up into different posts during the week. I have no idea how many that will be, since I have no outline or anything, but I’ve been learning about how a blog should read differently than a book anyways so I’ll do my best (I guess that makes sense.) 

We’re going to call this series, “How To Move On” (a guide to help victims become survivors). It seems fitting enough and should be an interesting venture as I’m still in the middle of understanding much of it myself.

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18 Comments on “How To Move On (intro.)”

  1. kenzelsfire Says:

    Jessie, Thank you for liking my recent blog post. I too have considered writing about this topic (“Moving On.”) Though I have hesitated for a long, long time — for no particular reason except maybe my own fears. Anyone who has faced evil and survived knows it’s not easy to write. But this leads me to believe it might be time….


    • Jessie Jeanine Says:

      So glad to have you here with us then my friend :) If I might ask, what kinds of fears prevent you from writing?


      • kenzelsfire Says:

        You’re about the 3rd person in so many weeks who has approached me with a question that I’m not sure I can answer…yet. I think that’s why I had to start ShiningaLight. I think it’s my stepping stone towards healing; definitely an avenue to better understand who God and Jesus are and what I learn along the way.


        • Jessie Jeanine Says:

          We share similar thoughts and feelings about this. I still don’t know how to answer some of these questions wither, so I can struggle when replying to emails sometimes, but I think it’s all a step in the right direction too – a step towards healing and figuring it out the best we can, so that we can help others along the way and in the process, find ourselves in Him. So, the fact that you can say you’re not sure how to answer my question is, in itself, an answer. I believe it’s meant to start the wheels turning – to stir our minds and hearts, and to propel us forward. I’ll be interested in hearing more of your thoughts as we continue forward :)


          • kenzelsfire Says:

            Jessie, I guess we’re both in it for a looong ride.

            I am “hesitatingly-anxious” to see how God uses writing to work it all through. Cause that’s how he and I seem to roll. :)


  2. brianwilliamsen Says:

    Awesome stuff, Jessie. Blessings to you, my friend!


  3. loopyloo305 Says:

    This is a very much needed discussion and I am glad you are doing it! Would you consider posting it on another venue as well? I think it would be very helpful to have it on The Christian Gazette,
    Please do consider it and if you are interested let me know via the email address in the comments section. Patricia aka loopyloo305


    • Jessie Jeanine Says:

      Hello Patricia! I think it’s a much needed discussion as well and probably the most repeated types of questions I get, so I hope everyone will chime in with their own advice, thoughts and ideas too. I appreciate your request and would be delighted to have it appear in ‘The Christian Gazette’ as well. Feel free to re-publish, re-post, or copy and paste anyway you like onto your blog. I only ask that you give an author’s credit and link back to the original article on my site please.


      • loopyloo305 Says:

        Would you be willing to become a contributing author?


        • Jessie Jeanine Says:

          What a humbling offer my friend – thank you! Please accept my apologies, but I’m unable to right now.

          I’m amazed at some of the offers I’ve had like this over the last couple of years and I desire so much to say, “yes!” I don’t know how to though yet, when it takes everything I’ve got to manage the things I try to do now. Perhaps one day, I’ll be blessed with the opportunity to write more for the pure pleasure of it verses just trying to make a living, and there by, freeing up more time to contribute to other areas as well. I miss writing for various publications, but hope to be in position to do it again sometime this year.


          • loopyloo305 Says:

            If you decide the time is right in the future, just let me know. Some of the contributing authors just post about once a month. I do good to post once a week. Fortunately with about 15 of us, there is no real pressure. God bless you and I am looking forward to your next post!



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