What do you see when you look in the mirror? What kinds of things do you tell yourself as you gaze at your own reflection. Are they positive or negative thoughts? Perhaps you don’t even take the time to look…
Mirror, Mirror on the Wall
It has taken me over 30 years to see myself in the mirror. I mean… to really see myself. To be honest, it has taken me that long to even want to take the time to truly look at myself, and for once, finally learn how to appreciate ‘what is.’
So there’s two sides to this ~ How we see ourselves on the outside and how we see ourselves on the inside.
On the inside, I’m all good. I’ve always had a lot of confidence in the kind of person I am ~ In my heart and soul, character and values, talents and abilities.
On the outside though, it’s a completely different story. I’ve always been kind of a mess with low self-esteem. When I look in the mirror, I see all my scars and imperfections. I see what ‘could be.’
Of course, we’re not talking about arrogance or narcissism here either. It’s about finding the balance between having a healthy self-esteem and being humble.
When You Think I’m Beautiful
Here’s another thought… Do you think you’ve ever been able to see yourself through another persons eyes before? Have you ever had someone else stand in front of the mirror with you and make mention of what they find so attractive? Whether intentional or invertibly, it can be a very powerful experience in which you might really thrive from if this is something you struggle with as well.
And what about the way God sees you? Lately, I keep reminding myself that He created me in His image and said I was perfect. God doesn’t make mistakes. He molded every single, beautiful, well placed curve on my body and called it perfect. He chose (all be it, via my parents) the color of my hair, my eyes, my skin tone and how may freckles I have… And He called me perfect. Then, even after man has given me countless scars and life starts to take its toll, God still says I’m beautiful and calls me perfect! Aren’t we supposed to adopt God’s image of us, for ourselves and each other, in every way that we can?
Soul Seeds…
After this many years, I would encourage you to find the desire and strength to look in the mirror right now ~ Just as you are, no matter what you’re age ~ And the sooner, the better! It makes me sad to think about how many years I wasted not appreciating myself. I’m not saying I’m ‘there’ yet, but I’m definitely working on it! I hope it doesn’t take you as long to realize that we can have a lot of self-confidence and self-esteem while still remaining humble. For, when we cheat ourselves… We cheat others and the world of all we’re capable of and what we can give back as well.
“You are perfect exactly as you are.
With all your flaws and imperfections…
There’s no need to change a single thing
Except, all those thoughts you have
That you need to change something.”
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Scars Are Beautiful (Poem by Jessie Jeanine)
September 30, 2015 at 2:54 pm
Hi Jessie, the post is up with your poem and here is the link: http://lscotthoughts.com/2015/09/30/you-are-worthy-and-worth-it/. I was recently thinking of doing a motivational post and your poem fits in perfectly, so thank you for letting me use it. I hope you like the post, too. :) Hugs and love for a great day! ♥
September 30, 2015 at 7:39 pm
Very well done Lauren and such a pleasure my friend, so thank you! I may have left a chapter size response on your blog though, lol ;) And I’ve also linked to you in my next post. Hugs beautiful!
October 1, 2015 at 3:06 am
Thanks, Jessie, and the pleasure is mine. :) Your poem tugs at my heart and your strength is more than commendable. No worries about your comment; believe me, I’ve done the same thing. And thanks for the link, too! I’m off to read comments on “our” post now. Big hugs!
September 29, 2015 at 4:10 pm
Jessie, this is beautiful, and so needed. Bless you for being light and salt. <3
September 29, 2015 at 6:11 pm
Aww… You’re beautiful Susan and thanks so much! :)
September 29, 2015 at 2:52 pm
What a beautiful, thoughtful, and motivational post, Jessie. I just commented on your original poem from last year. It’s powerful and amazing, to say the least. I was thinking of doing a post on this topic, too, someday soon. I’m unsure of the content, but if I choose to, would you mind if I used your poem? I would credit you, of course…sending hugs, my friend..♥
September 29, 2015 at 6:18 pm
Lauren, it would be an absolute honor my friend! Of everything I’ve written, it has crossed my mind several times to do a recording of that poem. People have been asking to see me on video for a long time and I’ve thought that might be a good place to start… Sending warm hugs and thoughts your way! ♡
September 29, 2015 at 9:49 pm
Great, I’ll keep you posted and will credit you and link your blog, as well. My post won’t be as elaborate, but it’ll be on the topic of being worthy, etc. I also think that would be a wonderful place to start. I’ve never read my poetry in public; fear has a hold on me still. :) But maybe someday…keep me posted if you do. ♥
September 29, 2015 at 4:46 am
Reblogged this on The Militant Negro™.
September 29, 2015 at 6:33 pm
Much appreciated!
September 29, 2015 at 7:07 pm
Very good post, it is my pleasure to reblog, thank you for sharing.