Love is not always easy ~ not unconditional love. Sure, it’s nice to feel like you’re in love, but love is very much a choice. It doesn’t matter if we’re speaking about the love a parent has for their child or a romantic love, because it’s all the same concept.
It’s easy to show love when you feel like it, but what about the times when you don’t feel like it? How do you act or respond to someone if you aren’t feeling particularly loving towards them? It’s going to happen no matter how optimistic, positive and healthy you are.
Just because you don’t feel like being loving, that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t still act like it. That is when it becomes about being a choice instead. When you love someone, you should still choose to act loving even when you don’t feel like it. That takes effort, commitment and a whole lot of patience!
It isn’t always easy to do and we’re bound to fail at times, despite our best efforts. Sometimes, we might even need to walk away momentarily until we can work through our own emotions or process a situation. I think that’s OK, because it isn’t our feelings that are ever wrong, it is how we choose to deal with them that matters.
If we don’t give up, God will continue to work within us to change our hearts. He will help us grow and learn how to love others more like He loves us… unconditionally.
From Her to Him
I love you~
as sure as the setting sun will rise again
know that I love you.
But, it’s so much more than that
I also choose you ~
Day after day, I choose you
you must know, understand and
have confidence in what I say;
trust me with your heart
for you are my choice, my forever, my love.
Each and every day
she needs to know he feels the same way
to know she is his, to be the only one
to know he will choose her again
with the rising and setting of the sun.
(beautiful horizons…)
Soul Seeds…
Thank goodness we don’t choose to love based solely upon how we feel, because our feelings are bound to waver according to circumstance.
It is the same with what we believe ~ I don’t want my faith to waver according to circumstance or how I’m feeling either, so it’s during those tough times and while at my weakest moments, that I choose to rely on what I already know to be true and had chosen to believe in… back when life was going better.
“Trust me with your heart”
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Jessie Jeanine 
April 8, 2014 at 9:07 am
I love this post! Beautiful. As always, my dear pretty friends. Blessings. With love Maxima
April 1, 2014 at 12:13 am
Thanks Jessie for always making me smile with your messages! May your new month be wonderfully blessed for you and your family!!!
March 30, 2014 at 12:12 pm
Jessie, this is a great blog, glad you found me. An interesting thought is that unconditional love starts with ourselves and then spreads to others. Matthew 22:37-40 Jesus points out that unconditional love starts with us loving God as much as we can, then loving ourselves, then other people. Coming from an abused background as you have it’s the loving ourselves part that is hard. The biggest thing is if we can understand just a little of how much God loves us, that frees us up to love ourselves in a healthy way. Unhealthy would be the two extremes, selfishness or no regard for who we are. Looking forward to the book, I find that when I share my “tough” testimony in my small group at church that there is someone that has to hear it because they were abused as well. Stay courageous.
March 30, 2014 at 1:01 pm
A point well made David! As you’ve stated though, loving ourselves is perhaps the most difficult part of a survivors journey. Or at least it has been for me. It can be even more challenging if our own parents were abusive or didn’t want us either (how could anyone, including God, ever really love us if our own parents didn’t even love us!) This is something I am still working on and probably will be for as long as I am here. The key really is trying to grasp, in even the smallest measure, how much HE loves us. Blessings to you and I appreciate your visit!
March 29, 2014 at 10:09 pm
A wonderful definition of love. With internet dating and the whole social media frenzy it’s easy to loose sight of the true meaning of love. Your post is a great reminder that love is truly a choice and tht it’s not all about thrills and frills.
March 29, 2014 at 9:55 pm
Right On! Amen! Well said.
March 29, 2014 at 9:57 pm
Thank you Butch! :)