So, I am used to being on the giving side of things and it is difficult for me to accept help. Because of the way I grew up and the life I’ve lived, I have had to be very independent and learn to do most things on my own. This has never bothered me and I’ve never thought much of it…
until I have had to be the one on the receiving end.
Being on the receiving end off gifts, out of need or necessity, can be much different than accepting them because it’s a holiday or special occasion. Whenever I find myself in this extremely humbling position, I must admit, it is a struggle for me. And while I don’t always like it, I try to remember and realize it’s just another area where I can become more Christ like. My personal struggle with it reveals an area of selfish pride that’s in me and I know He wants me to work on it. So, I try my best to develop a grateful attitude for the opportunity, as I allow Him to refine this part of my character even more.
IT IS IMPOSSIBLE TO BLESS SOMEONE WHO IS ALWAYS KEEPING SCORE!
Have you ever been given a gift or accepted someone’s help only to feel an internal drive that you had to pay it back in some way? Are you always looking for ways afterwards to balance the scales in your mind? I am like that. In part, I’m sure this comes from being surrounded by so many individuals in my lifetime who believed in “conditional love.” But also, I always thought it to be a good quality, because I was demonstrating the type of character that wanted you to realize that I don’t take anything for granted, I won’t ever abuse or take advantage of people, nor am I looking for a free ride (there is too much of that in the world!)
LET ME BLESS YOU!
Instead, even personal experiences have shown me that as I may try to bless another person who is not yet able to graciously receive it, it can make the experience frustrating. It can even become a chore or hassle to try to give or bless that person and those are not fruits of the spirit!
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, JOY, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. (Galatians 5:22-23)
So, how do we bear good fruits instead?
By learning to receive with the same characteristics in which we give.
GIVE WITH JOY! RECIEVE WITH JOY!
We might say a true “gift” or “blessing” is comparable to mercy or grace, in the idea that it is freely given. I am learning that one of the most sincerest ways to give back, is by merely and graciously accepting the gift with JOY! This gives back so much that is “sublime” to the giver and they are blessed in return :) How awesome! Then as we are able to and without obligation, we can pass blessings along to someone else who needs help, according to the individual gifts each of us has that we can share.
All of that being said my friends…
Happy! Happy! Joy! Joy!
And a HUGE…